The Quiet Superpower: How Validation Improves Relationships
Dr. Linda Pak
According to child psychologists like Dr. Linda Pak, validation is the most underused but powerful communication skill for any relationship.
What Is Validation?It simply means showing your child their feelings make sense—even when you don't agree. It says: "I see you. I hear you. Your feelings matter."
Why It Works:When kids feel understood, their defenses drop naturally. They stop trying to convince you and become open to what you say next. It's like unlocking a door.
Practicing Validation:
Listen first without planning your response
Say "That sounds frustrating" or "I can see why that upset you"
Remember: understanding does not mean agreeing
Key Takeaway: This doesn't come naturally to most of us. But with practice, it becomes second nature—and works wonders with everyone in your life, not just your kids.
The Quiet Superpower: How Validation Improves Relationships
Dr. Linda Pak
According to child psychologists like Dr. Linda Pak, validation is the most underused but powerful communication skill for any relationship.
What Is Validation?It simply means showing your child their feelings make sense—even when you don't agree. It says: "I see you. I hear you. Your feelings matter."
Why It Works:When kids feel understood, their defenses drop naturally. They stop trying to convince you and become open to what you say next. It's like unlocking a door.
Practicing Validation:
Listen first without planning your response
Say "That sounds frustrating" or "I can see why that upset you"
Remember: understanding does not mean agreeing
Key Takeaway: This doesn't come naturally to most of us. But with practice, it becomes second nature—and works wonders with everyone in your life, not just your kids.
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