Are you tired of asking your child to do something five times before they actually do it? Many parents find themselves stuck in this frustrating loop. The good news? There's a simple technique called the Compliance Cycle that can help break this pattern.
How it works:
Make a clear request: "Please pick up your clothes."
Wait about 20 seconds.
If no action, give one warning: "This is your warning. If you don't pick up your clothes, you'll lose 10 minutes of screen time."
Follow through immediately with the stated consequence if needed.
The secret is consistency and staying nearby to enforce the consequence. While it might seem time-consuming at first, you'll actually save time by avoiding repeated requests and arguments.
Key Takeaway:When used consistently, children learn they need to follow directions the first time. This creates a more peaceful home where you don't have to repeat yourself or raise your voice to be heard.
Getting Kids to Listen The First Time
Dr. Carol Matheson
Are you tired of asking your child to do something five times before they actually do it? Many parents find themselves stuck in this frustrating loop. The good news? There's a simple technique called the Compliance Cycle that can help break this pattern.
How it works:
Make a clear request: "Please pick up your clothes."
Wait about 20 seconds.
If no action, give one warning: "This is your warning. If you don't pick up your clothes, you'll lose 10 minutes of screen time."
Follow through immediately with the stated consequence if needed.
The secret is consistency and staying nearby to enforce the consequence. While it might seem time-consuming at first, you'll actually save time by avoiding repeated requests and arguments.
Key Takeaway:When used consistently, children learn they need to follow directions the first time. This creates a more peaceful home where you don't have to repeat yourself or raise your voice to be heard.
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